Thursday, March 26, 2009

Hoboken Waterfront











Photos taken with my new Canon Powershot G10

Morning "Family Edition"


Members of My Family at my Potentate Ball in 2004

Good Morning World....
Thank GOD for another day.

Today I will talk about "Family".
It is a touchy, loving. subject.

Many things can be said about "Family", so I will start with a few quotes:

Some things you do because you want to. Some things you do because of the needs of others in your family.
Real Live Preacher, Real Live Preacher weblog, 10-06-05
Anonymous author of RealLivePreacher.com

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.
Jane Howard, "Families"

Many men can make a fortune but very few can build a family.
J. S. Bryan

I think people that have a brother or sister don't realize how lucky they are. Sure, they fight a lot, but to know that there's always somebody there, somebody that's family.
Trey Parker and Matt Stone, South Park, Cat Orgy, 1999

I believe that , who you are as an adult, is a direct reflection of your upbringing as a child.
Some of us come from 1 parent households, which I think will produce a "one sided" child and adult.
Let me explain....
In every situation presented here, I will use myself as an example.

If I was raised by only my mother, somehow during my upbringing I will be missing the very important presence of a man in my household, so that I too may know as a man , how to interact with my family ,how to treat my wife, and how to raise my family in a way that makes the children grow up to be productive citizens.

If i was raised by only my father, I would be missing the compassion, sensitivity, and the emotional connection that a woman can give you.
After all...she did carry you for 9 months.
There should be some "emotional bond"
I would also be missing the picture of seeing a woman, lovingly taking care of her family.

Now, I'm not saying that in either situation, that 1 parent can't do it alone.
That would depend on how THAT parent was raised.

You see, it all stems from our childhood.

Children are influenced by what they see and hear during childhood.

Most would say...If you were raised in a home with parents that were drunks, or drug users, there is a strong possibility that you will become the same as an adult.
That is not always true.

Somehow during your journey in life, there comes a time that you must take those good, positive things that your parents presented you, and use them in your own life.
The negative, hurting, secrets must be put behind you.
They will always remain a part of your life, but you MUST learn to restrain them.

If you don't restrain them...you will continue the cycle.

Therapy helps.
There are many people out there who have walked in your shoes.

I grew up in a 2 parent household.
Although there are many things in my childhood that I HATED...I have to say I was truly blessed to have 2 parents.
Those positive things in my childhood...I have learned to carry them on into the raising of my family.
Some things have been adjusted, only because the times have changed.
So you must learn to change with the times (VERY HARD)

The negative things during my childhood...I have learned to talk about them with my own family...sometimes in tears, because all I ever wanted to do... is what's best for my family.

There's an old saying:
"You can't pick your Family"...

I say:
"You can alter the way that that you were raised by your Family...

Have A Blessed Day!!!

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Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Morning



Good Morning World...
Thank GOD for another Day.

I have been quite busy lately, but I am catching up with myself, and will begin posting more daily blogs and photos.
Please bear with me, and come back often.

I am asking for prayers for my Mother -in -Law who is in Intensive Care on Life Support, after suffering a stroke.

Quote for the day:

It is confidence in our bodies, minds and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures, new directions to grow in, and new lessons to learn - which is what life is all about.
Oprah Winfrey, Oprah Magazine, May 2004
US actress & television talk show host (1954 - )
Have A Blessed Day...

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Morning


I will get the shot "By Any means Neccesary"

Good Morning World...
Thank GOD for another day.

Quote for the day:

I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain, not to shrink to a grain of sand. Henceforth will I apply ALL my efforts to become the highest mountain of all and I will strain my potential until it cries for mercy.
Og Mandino
(1923 - 1996)
Have A Blessed Day!

Friday, March 13, 2009

Morning




Coney Island/ Brooklyn New York / 1 of my favorite places


Good Morning World...
Thank GOD for another day.

Quote for the day:

To be always intending to make a new and better life but never to find time to set about it is as to put off eating and drinking and sleeping from one day to the next until you're dead.
Og Mandino
(1923 - 1996)
Have A Blessed Day!!!

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Morning "The Storm Story"


27 INCHES




All PhotosByDAdamsJr

Good Morning World...
Thank GOD for another day.

Well, it has been 1 week since i took the scissors and cut my locs after 10 years of growth.
I have received many positive responses.
I have also received some STUPID remarks, such as "Wow, you look Human now".
Whether I have the locs or not...I am always HUMAN.

When asked ...why?
I tell everyone that "the Storm is over"

Most women say "you are still handsome", or "I like you better without the locs"
Most men say "wow you look 10 years younger" or "now you look just like your son"

Regardless of what anyone has said, I have sucked it up and accepted it.

10 years ago when i began my journey growing the locs, I got other comments...
"you look like Buckwheat"..."why?"..."when are you gonna get your hair done?"

I've heard it all.
After hearing it all, I dealt with the stares and whispers.
Most YOUNG men with locs are stereotyped as thugs, or weed smokers.
People are afraid to be alone with you on elevators, and you are looked upon as untrustworthy.

I AM NOT MY HAIR!!!!

It has been quite a journey...filled with up's and downs, good times and bad,...decisions,decisions,decisions.

But through it all, the one person who is responsible for my locs...Wanda, has stuck it out.
I know that deep inside she has been a little embarrassed when I would go months without getting loc maintenance, and i would care for the locs myself.
Always telling her that I didn't care what people thought about my locs.
I wasn't growing the locs for THEM .

So, I've heard it all , and I guess i have developed a thick SKIN...sort of like the scars from BREAST CANCER...the BURNS and DARK SKIN from the RADIATION.....WOW, that's why I started growing the LOCS.

So WE have STRUGGLED the last 10 years.
She has kept her hair cut SHORT....
I have been AFRAID to cut mine....

For the past 9 years SHE has been CANCER FREE....and it's not because of H-A-I-R....
It's because of GOD.

So now that The Storm is OVER. maybe I can enjoy some of GOD'S SUNSHINE on my SCALP..

Have A Blessed Day!!!

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Good Morning



Good Morning World...
Thank GOD for another day.

Well as you can see, this is the first OFFICIAL photo of me in 10 years without my locs.
I cut them this morning at 5:45 am.
It was a last minute decision.

I asked the question on my Facebook page about 2 months ago.
I actually put it on my wall that I was thinking about cutting my locs
I got ALOT of responses...most people said NO WAY!!!

I told everyone how my journey started 10 years ago when my wife had breast cancer, and how she has been Blessed by God to be cancer free now.
But while she was GOING THROUGH...SO WAS I.
So I grew my locs as an outward display of my STRUGGLE along with my wife.

It has been 10 years, and I have been afraid to cut them...but GOD never fails.
I did have one response from my friend Jacqui Morgan in North Carolina that really STUCK with me.

She said that the breast cancer was a STORM that God had taken us through...and by keeping the locs I was continually reliving that STORM.
Then she said "You should cut them"

That was DEEP!!!

So this morning, I stood before my bathroom mirror and said "I'm tired of this STORM"

Thanks Jacqui
and Thank You God.

Have A Blessed Day!!!

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Morning




Good Morning World...
Thank GOD for another day.

Thought for the Day:

A good Education is an essential part to success.However, one must must have a certain respect and admiration for those who have made their marks without the benefit of the traditional University Education.
The culture that we call street has given birth to some of the most successful and insightful people in the world.
Many of us would not be here today were it not for the skills and knowledge we acquired and the dues we paid on the streets.
There is no replacement for the street sense and instinct.
There is no school tougher than the
SCHOOL OF HARD KNOCKS!!!

HAVE A BLESSED DAY